A Hospice Story

Let Your Pain Touch You

Submitted by: Denise Torgerson - October 16, 2017

This is the way through grief. To let your pain touch you. Your discomfort, your emotions, your thoughts…

Pay attention to these. This is your way through.

Oh my, it is so hard. It feels easier to push it away, or to resist it. To sit in so much discomfort will take your breath away.

It feels easier to keep yourself busy and to distract. When you actually allow yourself the time and space you need to actually feel your pain – it hurts too much.

The problem is though, that resisting takes up way more energy than allowing. It is exhausting.

The problem is though, that even though distraction works for a while, your grief will show up again, over and over and over again. Often in ways that are detrimental to your own well being.

Even though you think you have a handle on things, the grief seeps into all areas of your life. It can affect you physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and behaviorally.

Grieving causes so much discomfort, but if you can just sit and allow the pain to touch you, if you can spend some time reflecting on the emotions that come up for you, it lessens the pressure. Let those tears role, name whatever emotion is showing up, and then breathe through it. Yes, it takes your breath away, but bring your awareness back to your breath and breathe, breathe, breathe.