A Hospice Story


Submitted by: Denise Torgerson - June 29, 2017

Soothe yourself dear one. Put your hand on your heart and give yourself compassion. This is the way through. This is the way in. Be gentle, be patient.

Often I will tell people to be kind to themselves and they look at me as if I am crazy. They have never even considered self-compassion an option. The compassion they give is reserved for other people. It feels foreign to most to be kind to themselves.

In grief, self-compassion is a gift you give yourself to keep going. Listen to your inner voice, if it is criticizing, change the words. Make room to love yourself.

You grieve because you love. This love doesn't end when someone dies. It can in fact intensify for a while. The relationship continues.

When you feel alone, there can be a void, an emptiness. Can you love yourself in this? Can you be a friend to yourself?

Soothe yourself. Give yourself the grace and compassion that you would give others. Ask your inner voice to use kind words right now.

You are worth it.